A little bit ago Don Juan was speaking to a consultant at his work and she asked about his marriage. Weird that she would ask? Yeah she was a little nosy. Anyway, He said:
"Oh my marriage is perfect."
She responded:
" Well that worries me because anytime someone says their marriage is perfect it is obviously a lie because no marriage is perfect. So, really, how is your marriage?"
Thankfully my man simply said:
" My marriage is prefect, next subject please."
He came and told me what happened which led to a discussion. I also said I thought our marriage was perfect.
So we started debating why this was such a bad thing to think.
We came to the conclusion we define "perfection" differently than some people.
We obviously do not get along perfectly all of the time. Sometimes we even tiff. Well, to be perfectly honest, I tiff with myself seeing as he doesn't seem to get mad at anything.
Sometimes we are rude (correction: I am rude)
Sometimes we are not the best parents
Sometimes we are selfish
and the list can go on and on.
We know this is normal
When all of these issues come up we choose to follow the rules we set early on in our marriage
1. Always, Always, Always go to bed together
2. Never say mean things in a disagreement just to be mean. We like to call this fighting fair.
3. Go on a date once a week . This is probably the hardest one but we do go at least three times a month. We make it a priority.
4. Laugh
We follow these rules and it seems to work out.
When we bug each other we talk it out once we have chillaxed.
To us this IS a prefect marriage. Two adults working towards the same goal the same way. We don't think perfect means never fighting. We think a perfect marriage is defined by how you deal with Not having a perfect marriage.
So yes missy,
We DO have a perfect marriage!
So, I am moping.
I have been moping for a good 30 minutes.
I don't think he has noticed.
I will probably go out for a walk with my friends and shut the door extra hard to make my point.
Don't worry, I have every intention of letting him know before we go to bed that I had a whole fight with him tonight and he didn't even know it!
See! PERFECT! ;)
Michelle Markland is a native Virginian however she currently resides in Utah with her Family which includes three wonderful children, three Dogs, and one super spectacular, hot, intellectual husband. In 2010 Michelle was diagnosed with Thyroid Cancer but is happy to announce she is currently kicking its butt in treatment. She loves to read, write, laugh, learn, and especially enjoys her attempts at cooking. She has grown to love and cherish being a stay at home mom, and all the wonderfully frustrating things that come with it, and is so grateful for the opportunity to write and blog about it on a daily basis.
Michelle blogs at The D&M Diaries.
Michelle blogs at The D&M Diaries.
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